An honorable mother

1.     Introduction:

A.     Mother’s really are amazing.  They pull off miracles all in the name of Love.

B.     Truthfully, no-one is more influential than a mother.

1.      No political regime, etc.

a.       George Washington: “All that I am I owe to my mother”

C.     God designed women to be wives and mothers, and despite 40 years of teaching to the contrary, women who devote themselves to their careers and working still have a nagging sense that they ought to be devoting themselves to their homes.

D.    We will look at mothers from two-perspectives:

1.      Those of us who are not mothers – children of mothers.

2.      Those here who are mothers.

2.     The honor due a Mother:

A.     Honor your Mother and Father

1.      Rich Young Ruler: Honor (Greek) = “to Prize”

a.       Cannot be done by self, must be done by others.

2.      Exodus 20:12 - Honor (Hebrews) = “Heavy” weighed down with riches.

a.       Honor comes with great responsibility

B.     Lev.19:3 “Let everyone of you revere his mother and father” Respect (Hebrew) = guard, protect.

1.      As you do things that are valuable, (ie. Photos – scrap booking, acid free paper; lock car; safe-deposit box, put special things in special places)

2.      David did for His mother: 1 Sam.22:1-4

a.       Being hotly pursued by Saul, took time to take mother 123 miles (246 round trip – walking) to King of Moab.

3.      Respect and protect her health – don’t push her to the point of a breakdown.  You Serve Her, instead of the other way around!

C.     Deut.27:16 “Cursed is anyone who despises his mother or father and the people say amen.

1.      Despises (Hebrew) = to take lightly.

a.       Not a aggressive and hostile “I hate you” attitude (although included)

b.      To take for granted, to ignore, have a “roll your eyes, whatever” attitude.

c.       Bible says whoever does this is cursed.

2.      This is where the feminist movement went wrong.  Motherhood treated lightly and actually turned hostile toward it.

3.      dismissed full time mothering as slavish and damaging.  How sad when scripture says to honor, respect, and esteem them.

D.    Not just today but everyday.

3.     But it is equally important, if you are a mother that you be an honorable mother!

A.     Considerations

1.      All mothers do some things that are not honorable; some make a career of it.

a.       We ought not honor, respect, or esteem those attitudes

b.      The Bible is really clear about this:

2.      Jacob’s mother taught him to be a con man; conniving and deceitful.

3.      Jezebel encouraged her son (Ahaziah) in wickedness  -2 Chron.22:3

4.      Herodias had daughter ask for John the Baptists head

5.      All mothers are not honorable, and the scars can last a lifetime.

6.      So how can a mother be honorable?

B.     Mothers are to be a preserver of life.

1.      God designed them to be this, Eve, the mother of all living.

a.       That’s why the horror of an Andrea Yates shocks us so.

2.      Israel was in Egypt, law to kill newborns, Moses’ mother protected him.

a.       The tragedy of abortion

3.      Solomon & two feuding moms.  The real mom shows true desire to preserve the life of the baby.

4.      You have the privilege of being a part of the miracle of life in conception and birth.

C.     Mothers are to cultivate faith in the hearts of your children

1.      2 Tim.1:5, Timothy’s faith which was first in his mother and grandmother

2.      Hannah –raised Samuel for 3 years then took him to Eli

a.       His sons turned out evil…difference?  They didn’t have the attention of Hannah the first 3 years of their lives.

b.      You cannot leave your children’s faith to chance.

3.      Foolish to “raise them neutral” and let them “choose for themselves”

a.       You don’t let them eat anything they want do you?  Health is at stake

b.      Play anywhere they want?  Watch anything they want?

c.       Why would you play spiritual Russian roulette with you kids?

d.      So many think being a great mom is being home-room mom and taxi service, making memories, etc.

e.       Do you neglect the spiritual life of your children?

4.      Live a life before them that reflects the reality of God in your life.

5.      Poem: When you thought I wasn’t looking:

 

When you thought I wasn't looking you hung my first painting on the refrigerator, and I wanted to paint another.

When you thought I wasn't looking you fed a stray cat, and I thought it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn't looking, you baked a birthday cake just for me, and I knew that little things were special things.

When you thought I wasn't looking you said a prayer, and I believed there was a God that I could always talk to.

When you thought I wasn't looking you kissed me good-night, and I felt loved.

When you thought I wasn't looking I saw tears come from your eyes, and I learned that sometimes things hurt--but that it's all right to cry.

When you thought I wasn't looking you smiled, and it made me want to look that pretty, too.

When you thought I wasn't looking you cared, and I wanted to be everything I could be.

When you thought I wasn't looking--I looked . . . and wanted to say thanks for all those things you did when you thought I wasn't looking

 

D.    Mothers Need to Give Good Advice

1.      Kids need good advice don’t they?  Especially teenagers!

2.      Prov.31:1

a.       The mother of King Lemuel’s advice to her son:

1)      Tells him of: wild women & substance abuse, king defend the defenseless, be gracious & non-judgmental to the little people, and 19 verses describing what an honorable wife would look like.

2)      Did you know that was a mother’s advice to her son?

3)      Some times they will listen better than at other times…

b.      Kid’s the advice should be listened to:

1)      Prov.1:8 says “do not forsake the law of your mother”

2)      Prov.23:22 “do not despise your mother when she is old”

3)      One discouraged mother wrote:

I gave you life, but I cannot live it for you

I can teach you things but I cannot make you learn

I can give you direction but I can’t lead you

I can allow freedom but I can’t account for it

I can buy you beautiful clothes but I cannot make you beautiful inside

I can give you love but I can’t force it on you

I can teach you to share but I can’t teach you to be unselfish

I can teach you respect but I can’t force you to show honor

I can teach you about friends but I can’t choose them for you

I can advise you about sex but I can’t keep you pure

I can warn you about drugs but I can’t prevent you from using them.

I can take you to church but I can’t make you believe

I can warn you about sin but I cannot make you moral

I can love you as my child but I cannot place you in God’s family

3.      Mom’s make sure you tell them!

a.       If they walk away, you’re not eaten up with guilt!

4.     Conclusion:

A.     So the big picture is this:  Mom’s, show what it means to be honorable, by preserving life, cultivating faith, and giving godly advice.

B.     As for our job, we honor, respect, and esteem them.  Remember, they cannot give it to themselves, only you can give it to them.