Family

These are sermons that address issues related to the Christian home.  Here you will find sermons on God's teaching to husbands, wives, children, parents, grandparents, inlaws, etc.

An honorable mother

1.     Introduction:

A.     Mother’s really are amazing.  They pull off miracles all in the name of Love.

B.     Truthfully, no-one is more influential than a mother.

1.      No political regime, etc.

a.       George Washington: “All that I am I owe to my mother”

C.     God designed women to be wives and mothers, and despite 40 years of teaching to the contrary, women who devote themselves to their careers and working still have a nagging sense that they ought to be devoting themselves to their homes.

D.    We will look at mothers from two-perspectives:

1.      Those of us who are not mothers – children of mothers.

2.      Those here who are mothers.

2.     The honor due a Mother:

A.     Honor your Mother and Father

1.      Rich Young Ruler: Honor (Greek) = “to Prize”

a.       Cannot be done by self, must be done by others.

2.      Exodus 20:12 - Honor (Hebrews) = “Heavy” weighed down with riches.

a.       Honor comes with great responsibility

B.     Lev.19:3 “Let everyone of you revere his mother and father” Respect (Hebrew) = guard, protect.

1.      As you do things that are valuable, (ie. Photos – scrap booking, acid free paper; lock car; safe-deposit box, put special things in special places)

2.      David did for His mother: 1 Sam.22:1-4

a.       Being hotly pursued by Saul, took time to take mother 123 miles (246 round trip – walking) to King of Moab.

3.      Respect and protect her health – don’t push her to the point of a breakdown.  You Serve Her, instead of the other way around!

C.     Deut.27:16 “Cursed is anyone who despises his mother or father and the people say amen.

1.      Despises (Hebrew) = to take lightly.

a.       Not a aggressive and hostile “I hate you” attitude (although included)

b.      To take for granted, to ignore, have a “roll your eyes, whatever” attitude.

c.       Bible says whoever does this is cursed.

2.      This is where the feminist movement went wrong.  Motherhood treated lightly and actually turned hostile toward it.

3.      dismissed full time mothering as slavish and damaging.  How sad when scripture says to honor, respect, and esteem them.

D.    Not just today but everyday.

3.     But it is equally important, if you are a mother that you be an honorable mother!

A.     Considerations

1.      All mothers do some things that are not honorable; some make a career of it.

a.       We ought not honor, respect, or esteem those attitudes

b.      The Bible is really clear about this:

2.      Jacob’s mother taught him to be a con man; conniving and deceitful.

3.      Jezebel encouraged her son (Ahaziah) in wickedness  -2 Chron.22:3

4.      Herodias had daughter ask for John the Baptists head

5.      All mothers are not honorable, and the scars can last a lifetime.

6.      So how can a mother be honorable?

B.     Mothers are to be a preserver of life.

1.      God designed them to be this, Eve, the mother of all living.

a.       That’s why the horror of an Andrea Yates shocks us so.

2.      Israel was in Egypt, law to kill newborns, Moses’ mother protected him.

a.       The tragedy of abortion

3.      Solomon & two feuding moms.  The real mom shows true desire to preserve the life of the baby.

4.      You have the privilege of being a part of the miracle of life in conception and birth.

C.     Mothers are to cultivate faith in the hearts of your children

1.      2 Tim.1:5, Timothy’s faith which was first in his mother and grandmother

2.      Hannah –raised Samuel for 3 years then took him to Eli

a.       His sons turned out evil…difference?  They didn’t have the attention of Hannah the first 3 years of their lives.

b.      You cannot leave your children’s faith to chance.

3.      Foolish to “raise them neutral” and let them “choose for themselves”

a.       You don’t let them eat anything they want do you?  Health is at stake

b.      Play anywhere they want?  Watch anything they want?

c.       Why would you play spiritual Russian roulette with you kids?

d.      So many think being a great mom is being home-room mom and taxi service, making memories, etc.

e.       Do you neglect the spiritual life of your children?

4.      Live a life before them that reflects the reality of God in your life.

5.      Poem: When you thought I wasn’t looking:

 

When you thought I wasn't looking you hung my first painting on the refrigerator, and I wanted to paint another.

When you thought I wasn't looking you fed a stray cat, and I thought it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn't looking, you baked a birthday cake just for me, and I knew that little things were special things.

When you thought I wasn't looking you said a prayer, and I believed there was a God that I could always talk to.

When you thought I wasn't looking you kissed me good-night, and I felt loved.

When you thought I wasn't looking I saw tears come from your eyes, and I learned that sometimes things hurt--but that it's all right to cry.

When you thought I wasn't looking you smiled, and it made me want to look that pretty, too.

When you thought I wasn't looking you cared, and I wanted to be everything I could be.

When you thought I wasn't looking--I looked . . . and wanted to say thanks for all those things you did when you thought I wasn't looking

 

D.    Mothers Need to Give Good Advice

1.      Kids need good advice don’t they?  Especially teenagers!

2.      Prov.31:1

a.       The mother of King Lemuel’s advice to her son:

1)      Tells him of: wild women & substance abuse, king defend the defenseless, be gracious & non-judgmental to the little people, and 19 verses describing what an honorable wife would look like.

2)      Did you know that was a mother’s advice to her son?

3)      Some times they will listen better than at other times…

b.      Kid’s the advice should be listened to:

1)      Prov.1:8 says “do not forsake the law of your mother”

2)      Prov.23:22 “do not despise your mother when she is old”

3)      One discouraged mother wrote:

I gave you life, but I cannot live it for you

I can teach you things but I cannot make you learn

I can give you direction but I can’t lead you

I can allow freedom but I can’t account for it

I can buy you beautiful clothes but I cannot make you beautiful inside

I can give you love but I can’t force it on you

I can teach you to share but I can’t teach you to be unselfish

I can teach you respect but I can’t force you to show honor

I can teach you about friends but I can’t choose them for you

I can advise you about sex but I can’t keep you pure

I can warn you about drugs but I can’t prevent you from using them.

I can take you to church but I can’t make you believe

I can warn you about sin but I cannot make you moral

I can love you as my child but I cannot place you in God’s family

3.      Mom’s make sure you tell them!

a.       If they walk away, you’re not eaten up with guilt!

4.     Conclusion:

A.     So the big picture is this:  Mom’s, show what it means to be honorable, by preserving life, cultivating faith, and giving godly advice.

B.     As for our job, we honor, respect, and esteem them.  Remember, they cannot give it to themselves, only you can give it to them.

Being a Real Man

Introduction: Titus 2:2, 6-8 (This passage speaks of God’s idea of a real man. This is a strong contrast with the modern concept promoted by the world. In this study we will explore God’s concept of what a man should be.)

    I. What Is Not Important:

       1. Physical Beauty1 Sam. 16:7 (God does not look on the outside like we do. He sees the inward beauty or lack thereof. We need to be the same.) Isa. 53:2 (Christ was not physically attractive, yet surely he was successful and pleasing to God.)

       2. Physical Strength1 Tim. 4:8, Gen. 6:4-5 (Bodily exercise has some value, but only little value. The world will tell you that you should bulk up if you are to be a real man. God speaks of an ancient race of giants, strong men, but they were wicked in God’s sight. Physical strength won’t make you pleasing to God.)

       3. Possessions And Achievements: Lk. 12:15, Rom. 8:6 (The world will tell you if you don’t have great possessions and achievements you aren’t much of a man. But Jesus teaches us our lives are not measured by how much we have. Furthermore, the Bible teaches us not to be carnally minded, or take too much concern for possessions.)

       4. Number Of Women You’ve Had: Prov. 6:24-29, Prov. 7:6-8, 21-27 (The world will tell you a real man has to "bag a lot of babes". Think of the disrespect inherent in such language. Is it really manly to have this kind of contempt to view women as a prize? God teaches you are a fool headed for death if you philander, especially after the loose kind of woman that is most likely to respond to your pursuits.)

    II. What Is Important:

       1. Being Submitted To God1 Cor. 11:3 (What is really important is spiritual strength. You must be submitted to God. This is an excellent opportunity for you to show your wife that you really believe in submission.)

       2. Industry1 Thes. 4:11-12, 1 Tim. 5:8, Eph. 6:5-9 (The Bible teaches you must work hard. It doesn’t matter to obtain a lot. What matters is that you work hard and honest.)

       3. Spiritual Possessions: Mt. 6:19-21 (God values those who amass great spiritual possessions, treasures in heaven.)

       4. Proper Relations With Women: 1 Tim. 5:1-2, Mt. 5:27-28 (The real measure of a man is not in how many women you can use, but in whether or not you are pious toward women. The Bible teaches us to behave in a holy manner toward women, not lustfully.)

          A. Girlfriend: 1 Cor. 9:27 (Paul said we must practice self control. If you are not married, to be a real man is to exercise self control toward your girlfriend.)

          B. Wife: 1 Pet. 3:7, Eph. 5:22-24 (If you are married, to be a real man you must be kind and gentle with your wife.)

          C. Mother: Prov. 6:20-21 (The real measure of a man is in how you treat your mother. You must treat her with respect. This is how you are treat all the older ladies in God’s family.)

Conclusion: (God’s idea and the world’s idea of a real man are very different. As men, you must dismiss the evil notions of the world and aspire to be what God wants you to be. As women, you must forget trying to find a husband or reshape your husband into the world’s idea. You must accept and encourage God’s idea of a real man.)

Being a Real Woman

Introduction: Titus 2:2, 6-8 (This passage speaks of God’s idea of a real woman. Contrast this with modern concept and you will see a real difference. In this study we will explore God’s concept of what a woman should be.)

    I. What Is Not Important: (Follows are some things the world will tell you are very important to being a real woman. We will learn from the scriptures these traits are not always favorable in the sight of God.)

       1. Physical Beauty1 Pet. 3:1-4 (The world would have you to believe you need physical beauty to get by in life. It will also encourage you to use your physical charm to get what you want in life. This passage speaks of how a woman can influence her husband in a favorable way. Notice it emphasizes good behavior and quality of character as opposed to physical beauty. To give attention to your appearance is fine. Your husband is sure to appreciate such efforts on your part. However, such beauty is fleeting and vain. Your real emphasis must be on godliness.)

       2. Independence1 Cor. 11:3, 1 Tim. 5:14 (The world will tell you that you must maintain your independence. In some situations you may be made to feel inferior if you do not "take charge and be in control of your life". These verses teach there are certain rolls a woman must take in the family that require her, like the man, to set aside personal independence and serve the family.)

       3. Being Bold And Assertive: Prov. 27:15, Prov. 21:9 (The world promotes the idea you must be bold, brazen and assert yourself. The Bible teaches the idea of being contentious and always demanding your way are not favorable traits in the sight of God.)

       4. How Handsome A Man She Can Obtain1 Kings 11:1f (The world would have you to believe the measure of a woman is found in whether or not she can snare a wealthy and handsome man. If one’s ability to catch an attractive mate were God’s idea of good, Solomon should have been great. But his obtaining many beautiful wives was part of his downfall.)

    II. What Is Important:

       1. Inward Beauty1 Pet. 3:1-6 (God insists that having inward beauty, a meek and quiet spirit, is what is valuable in his sight.)

       2. Submission: Eph. 5:22-24 (God insists being submissive to your husband is an important quality. Submission is not ugly. We all must submit to others at some time and in some way. Even Christ submitted to death. In this light you can see why submission is beautiful in the sight of God.)

       3. Keeper At Home: Titus 2:3-5, Prov. 31:13-16 (Having career skills and opportunities can be good in certain situations, but you have a domestic responsibility to your family you must not neglect.)

       4. Making A Christian Home: Eph. 6:4 (God wants us to have homes that train our children to be godly.)

          A. Contrast Sarah And Job’s Wife: Job 2:9 (We’ve already noticed that Sarah was good to Abraham and they made their home a godly home. In contrast, Job’s wife advised Job to curse God. You will play an important and powerful roll in making your home a Christian home.)

          B. A Picture Of Motherhood: Jdgs. 5:7, 4:5, Ezek. 16:44 (Deborah was like a mother to the nation of Israel. Her influence was powerful and positive. People came to her for guidance. You can be like this in your home and your circle of influence. The proverb is true. Your children will tend to be like you. Will that be good or bad in the sight of God?)

Conclusion: (God’s idea and the world’s idea of a real woman are very different. As women, you must dismiss the evil notions of the world and aspire to be what God wants you to be. As men, you must forget trying to find a wife or reshape your wife into the world’s idea. You must accept and encourage God’s idea of a real woman.)

Building a Godly Home

Introduction: 1 Cor. 6:20 (Because we are bought and paid for by God, every area of our lives must glorify him. The family is included in this principle. You have a responsibility to construct a family that will glorify God and fulfill his purpose. This study speaks to those that are already married by encouraging us to be the right kind of spouse. It especially speaks to the unmarried in encouraging them to select an appropriate, godly mate. Rather than dealing with the question of marrying someone who is not a Christian, let us deal with the question of marrying someone who does not love God.)

Ask these questions:

    Will this person help me to be a better Christian?

    Will I help this person be a better Christian?

    Your children will probably be lost! Who will do something to change that fact?

    Will this person teach my children to fear God?

First, consider what kind of person you are bringing into the relationship. What kind of person are you? Then consider the kind of person you are marrying. Then consider what to do once you've gotten into a bad situation.

1. Be A Good Person: Mt. 7:3-5 (Before you spend too much time wondering what kind of person you are marrying, you need to think about the kind of person you are. Will you be an asset to the marriage?)

     A. Unselfish: 1 Cor. 7:32-34 (God admits that it is natural in marriage to seek to please your spouse. Will you be this kind of spouse or will you always think of yourself? Thinking of the other person means a commitment to make the marriage work. Do you have such a commitment?)

     B. God First: Mt. 6:33 (No matter what, God must be first in your life. Can you honestly tell your future spouse or spouse that you love God more than you will ever love them? If you cannot say this, you are an unfit candidate for marriage!)

     C. Guided By God's Law: Ps. 1:1 (Walk, stand, sit; These are all increasing levels of involvement. Are you letting God's word guide every area of your life? This is what it takes to make a marriage work.)

2. Find A Good Spouse: Prov. 12:4 (A good spouse can be a great blessing. A terrible spouse can destroy your marriage, your soul and your children’s souls.)

     A. God First: Lk. 12:52-53 (Your spouse should put God first, even before you.)

     B. Responsible: Eph. 5:23-25 (This and other passages outline the responsibilities of the husband and wife. Will you potential spouse fulfill these responsibilities? If they are not this kind of person now, why think they will be later?) Eph. 6:4 (This speaks of the responsibility of parents to teach their children. Will your future spouse do this? If they don't have time to study now, why think they will take time to study with your children later?)

     C. Solomon: 1 Kings 11:1-4 (Do you think you can take it? Do you think that you can be the exception and make a marriage with some ungodly fool work? Solomon was one of the wisest people that ever lived. He couldn't make it work. It took him down. Are you better than Solomon?

3. Lemonade Out Of Lemons: 1 Pet. 3:1-7 (You must do your best to set a good example in the hopes that your spouse will become a Christian. You cannot manipulate your spouse. You cannot force them to do right. You can only do right yourself and hope they will follow suit.) 1 Cor. 7:13-15 (God recognizes that sometimes a Christian may become involved with a person that is ungodly. In this situation the Christian is bound to do their part in making the marriage work. If the unbeliever is not content to dwell, the Christian is no longer under bondage to that marriage.)

Conclusion: (In light of the seriousness of marriage and children, why on earth would you want to marry anyone but a person who is totally devoted to God? Why? Remember: If for some reason your spouse turns against God. Though your marriage may fail, you can be a success if you follow God's commands regarding your role in the marriage and in doing all you can to make the marriage work.)

Children in the Stronghold of Satan

Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the Lord keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep. Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate. Psalms 127:1-5

Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord: And he shall turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse. Malachi 4:5,6

1. Introduction:

A. Hannah -how a child was considered the blessing of the Lord.

B. "Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward." Psalms 127:3

C. Thanksgiving & Christmas holidays illustrate the great joy that children & grandchildren provide.

D. In a study of proverbs, there are over 50 references to children & parents

E. "Sex education" in our schools is mainly aimed at teaching how to avoid having children while engaging in the act that God designed to produce children.

F. Abortion on demand is legal for the express purpose keeping someone from having a child.

G. Free birth control devices and medication is given out in our public schools and clinics.

H. Your "female doctor" was very likely educated out of the standard text which expresses the goal of female reproductive healthcare as: "Controlling human fertility . . . by birth control, abortion and sterilization . . . people must come to want fewer children."

I. We are taught on public television, in pamphlets, by our schools that the earth is on the verge of overpopulation to the extent that we will destroy the globe if it is not stopped.

1. today, the planned parenthood clinics are full of people learning to avoid having children.

2. In the United states of America, the average number of children per family is now 1.7.

3. If it were not for immigration, our population would actually be declining.

2. How Satan Has Built Strongholds That Harm Our Families

A. In the garden of Eden, Satan's stronghold was a lie that he told, which, when believed by Eve, drove her to blatant disregard for the commands of God and misery and suffering beyond her comprehension.

1. Genesis 3:1-6

2. 1 Timothy 2:14

B. Today, Satan works just as he did back then. He deceives. And any lie that he can convince God's people of will be a stronghold for his rebellion against God.

C. It is my contention that God teaches us something very different about our families and having children in particular, than what is commonly taught and believed in our nation today.

3. What Does God's Word Teach About Having Children?

A. Genesis 1:28 The Adamic covenant

1. Have dominion over the earth. (Is this still for us?)

2. Be fruitful and multiply! (Then what about this?)

3. Who will determine when the earth has been replenished?

4. This command was repeated in Genesis 9:1

B. Psalms 127:3-5 Children are the reward of God

C. 1 Timothy 4:15 God's will is for the younger women to marry and bear children.

4. What Are The Strongholds Of Satan Regarding Children?

In other words, "What lies has Satan convinced God fearing, Bible believing people of that would discourage them from responding to God's desires about having children?"

A. The earth is over populated as it is, if we don't limit the size of our family, the problem will get totally out of hand.

B. God said, as part of the Adamic covenant to "Be fruitful and multiply" Until when? "Replenish the earth"

1. Replenish (Hebrew #4390) "To wholly fill"

2. Taking an estimate of 6 billion people (which is too high)

3. Everyone on the face of the entire earth could stand inside the Dallas city limits with room to spare.

4. Everyone could live in ONE huge city the size of the bottom half of the state of Texas with the population density of the city of Tokyo.

5. The earth is no where near over population.

C. "Let's wait to have Kids" Comes in several forms.

1. Wait until we can afford them. (i.e. give them the possessions that most of their peers will have.)

2. God commands us to raise our children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4)

a. Part of that includes teaching them to be content with merely food and clothes. 1 Timothy 6:8

b. The "Hard times" usually will be fondly remembered as the "Good times".

c. Life does not consist of what we possess. (Luke 12:15)

3. "We're too young"

4. Psalms 127:3 "Youth" (Hebrews #5271) Youth, juvenility, childhood, adolescence. Proverbs 5:18

5. "We want to enjoy life with just each other"

6. Psalms 127:3 Kids are a blessing, and if raised in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, only increase your enjoyment of life and each other.

D. "Women can't be fulfilled without a career."

E. God designed a specific career for them. 1 Timothy 4:15 "Guide the house"

1. Titus 2:4,5 "Worker at home"

2. The virtuous woman did buy a field and work it, she did make and sell fabric Proverbs 31:10-31

F. A woman should have the right to do what she wants with her own body.

1. It's a fetus, merely tissue, not a child

G. This is not what God says.

1. God has given commands that restrict her use of her lips (Lies), her brain (hatred), her digestive system (Drunkenness, gluttony), etc. It is not unreasonable that God would guide her use of her reproductive organs as well.

2. He has commanded that the younger women marry, and bear children. (1 Timothy 4:15)

3. It is a baby, not an "Unviable tissue mass" in the woman's body (Job.10:18,19; Exodus 21:22,23)

H. You must plan exactly how many kids you will have and when (Planned parenthood).

1. "Our goal must be to make every child a planned and wanted child" Joycelyn Elders, Surgeon General of the United States, 1993.

2. This is disguised language to mean that abortion, and birth control should be available to everyone, at any age, at any time, at no cost.

a. Birth control pills, many, if not all birth control pills cause spontaneous abortion of a fertilized egg (a child), on average one every three years. Homework on Birth control.

I. God is perfectly able to plan that part of your life.

1. If only planned and wanted children were born, I would not be here (My family would only have 2 kids).

2. Many of you, or your children would not be alive.

3. If Mary could have chosen I am sure, prior to the fact, that she would have not chosen to be expectant out of wedlock.

J. One last thought, many say "Well, It's too late for me to have a(nother) child, I'm already in my 30's."

K. 1 Timothy 4:15 "Younger women" = "Under 60" (VS.9)

5. Branches That Have Their Root In Not Loving Children

A. Abortion

B. Having baby-sitter’s raise your kids

C. Homosexuality

D. Mutilation of the Sex organs (Sterilization)

E. Divorce

F. Child abuse

G. Fornication

H. Sexual Perversion of all kinds

I. Pornography

J. harmful/ sinful birth-control methods

K. Radical Feminism

6. Conclusion:

A. Jesus Loved children and taught his followers to become like them in purity and humility.

B. God desires to raise up many Godly Children to Love and serve Him.

1. One way God defeats his enemies is through the raising up of Godly children. (Psalms 8:2)

2. We have strength in our own godly children (Psalms 127:3-5) Quiver full of them.

C. Satan has always desired to destroy the righteous, and one way of doing that is to convince them not to rear godly children.

D. Don't believe any of Satan's lies, but rather, ask God "What does the Word teach that your will is in our having a family?" And follow whatever you find in that word.

Choices

1) INTRODUCTION:

 A)    Choices are a part of our everyday life.  Some are more monumental than 
        others, but regardless of how big or small the choice is, the fact is that we 
 
       are faced with them on a daily, regular basis. 


 B)    In this study we want to look at choices that people have made and see
        what role they play in spiritual life.

2) CHOICE OF DISCIPLESHIP:

A)    The Rich Young Ruler.  Mk 10:17-22.
        1.    The Rich Young Ruler chooses his riches more than eternal life.  Mt 16:24-26.
        2.    We must choose to deny our self and follow Christ
B)    The Wedding Feast.  Lk 14:15-20.
        1.    Something was more important to them than the invitation.
        2.    We face a choice of which one is going to be more important.
        3.    Will we bear our cross, and Choose Jesus?
C)    Moses. Heb 11:24-25.
        1.    Moses choose to suffer with the people of God.
        2.    Paul tells us in 2 Tim 3:12 "all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall
               suffer persection.
"
        3.    Do we choose to suffer?  To live daily for Christ and bear our cross?
D)    Mary.  Lk. 10:38-42.
        1.    Mary chose sit at the feet of Jesus and learn.
        2.    Do we choose this or do we spend our time doing other things.
E)    Serving God is a choice we make, not something that just happens.
        1.    Mt 5:14  We should be "the light of the world." Do you dim your light
               so that you won't stand out.
        2.    Mt 6:24  Our choice must be clear.  We can't serve two masters.
        3.    Heb. 4:12-13  You can go thru the motions and fool even youself,
               but you can NEVER fool God.

3) CHOICE OF SALVATION:

A)    Josh 24:15.  The same choice that Joshua gave to the people of his time, 
       is the same choice you must face.
        1.    We must choose who we will serve.
B)    Look at 1 Kg 18:21.  Elijah presented the situation as a choice,
       not a feeling.
        1.    If The Lord is God, then follow him.
C)    Pr. 1:28-31.  Those that do not choose the fear of the Lord will receive their
       just reward.
D)    2 Thess 1:7-9.  Those who choose to obey the gospel will have rest.
        1.    Those who choose other-wise will face the wrath of God.

4) CLOSE:

A)    One Last Example:  The Crowd.  Mt. 27:15-21.
        1.    Many people today who have made the same choice as this crowd
        2.    They choose something or someone else over Jesus.
B)    Rm 6:16.  The choice that every person faces is the choice between serving
       God and serving sin.
C)    Which will you choose today?

Christ: The Character Of Good Leadership

Introduction: Rom. 2:4 (The goodness of God and Christ leads us. Christ is our leader. He so perfectly embodies every aspect of God's idea of good leadership that he truly is the character of good leadership. Studying this will reveal the direction Christ leads us. It will also guide us in how we fulfill our respective rolls as leaders; elders, husbands, parents, Christian example, civic leaders, etc.)

I. Good Leadership Defined:

     1. Reputation1 Tim. 3:7 (The fact that God requires elders to have a good reputation shows that real leadership is born out of reputation.)

     2. Moral Standards1 Tim. 3:2 (God requires leaders to live by exemplary moral standards. A good reputation is built by living good standards.)

     3. Not By Force1 Pet. 5:1-3 (God forbids elders to lead by force. Good leadership must be firm but doesn't have to force.)

     4. By Example1 Pet. 5:3 (God requires elders to lead by example. This is an essential component of good leadership.)

     5. Sacrificial Love: Jn. 15:13-14 (Christ connected his requirement we obey him, follow his leadership, to the fact that he has a self sacrificing love for us. True leadership involves this kind of love for the people and the cause being led.)

     6. For The Good Of Others: Heb. 13:17 (Godly elders lead the flock out of concern for the souls.) Phil. 2:4 (God expects us to think of the good of others, not ourselves. An essential characteristic of good leadership is to fulfill that position for the good of others.)

II. Man's Failure:

     1. Bad Name1 Sam. 18:7-8 (Saul exemplifies man's failure. Trying to lead with a failing or bad reputation does not work.)

     2. Loose Morals: Jer. 23:1-2, 9-11 (The leaders of God's people in old times failed because they were grossly immoral. Though some may try, good leadership cannot exist simultaneously with corrupt morals.)

     3. My Way Or The Highway: Titus 1:7 (Elders must not be self willed. Some try to lead while insisting they get their own way. Good leadership cannot have the attitude that everything must be done my way.)

     4. Sit Back And Give Orders: Mt. 23:4 (Instead of leading by example, the Pharisees tried to sit back and give orders, never intending to do these things themselves. Real leader ship doesn't hide behind a rock at the bottom of a hill demanding others charge up. Real leadership leads the charge.)

     5. Selfish Interests3 Jn. :9 (Some, like Diotrephes, accept leadership for their own interests, to promote their own agendas. This is not godly leadership.)

     6. Good Of Self: Isa. 56:11 (Like many today, these shepherds of Israel sought leadership for their own good instead of the good of the people and the cause.)

III. Christ Personifies Good Leadership:

     1. Known As A Good Teacher: Jn. 3:1-2 (The fact that Christ was well known as a good teacher shows that his leadership grows out of the best reputation.)

     2. No Sin Or Guile1 Pet. 2:22, 1 Jn. 3:5 (Christ had no sin whatever. He was morally perfect. His leadership grows from his moral purity.)

     3. Compels, Won't Force: Mt. 23:37 (Christ wanted to lead Jerusalem as a hen gently leads her chicks, not by kicking them back into the nest. He doesn't force us to follow him. He compels us.)

     4. Left A Pattern Of Steps: 1 Pet. 2:21 (The leadership of Christ involves his example. He didn't stand at the hill of self denial and command us to trudge up alone. He is at the point! He led the charge when he walked up Calvary's hill!)

     5. Gave His Life: Eph. 5:23 (Christ's leadership over the church is founded in the fact that he has self sacrificing love for the church. It's easy to respect leadership like this.)

     6. Emptied Himself For Others: Phil. 2:5-8, 2 Cor. 8:9 (Christ's leadership is founded on the fact that he gave himself for the good of others.)

IV. Christ's Leadership Calls You To Follow:

     1. Calls Upon You To Listen1 Thes. 2:13

     2. Reminds You Of Your Sin: Isa. 53:6

     3. Calls You To Come Under His Wings: Mt. 11:28-30

     4. Calls You To Follow His Example: Jn. 8:12

     5. Calls You To Give Your Life1 Jn. 4:19, 1 Jn. 3:16

     6. Calls you To Empty Yourself For Him: Gal. 5:24

Christian Entertainment

  1. Introduction:
    1. So many of our songs, movies and other types of entertainment can be described accurately only as evil.
  2. God's Word Speaks To The Question Of Music.
    1. Ephesians 5:18,19 "...singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord."
    2. Psalms 40:3 "And he hath put a new song in my mouth, even praise to our God..."
    3. Colossians 3:16,17 "...singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord"
  3. Godly Music Effects Our Spirit.
    1. 1 Samuel 16:23
  4. Evil Music Notoriously Accompanies Sinful Practices.
    1. Exodus 32:17-19
  5. Some Tests Of Right Music:
    1. Test the Spirit (teachings) of the music.
      1. 1 John 4:1-3 Test the teachings
      2. 1 Timothy 6:3-5 Those who teach unwholesome words
      3. Comparisons of Good and Evil Music:
        1. Good Music:
          1. Speaks truth about life.
          2. Glorifies God and righteous living.
          3. Decries evil and unrighteous living.
        2. Evil Music:
          1. Speaks Lies about life.
          2. Glorifies rebellion and evil living.
          3. Mocks God and righteousness.
    2. Test the Fruit (Results) of the music.
      1. Matthew 7:16-20 "By their fruit ye shall know them."
      2. James 3:9-13 Search for consistency in the character of those involved.
      3. 1 Samuel 16:23 Do you see the distressing attitude in these people?
      4. Where to look for it's fruit:
        1. In the words & actions of the performers.
        2. In the words & actions of the DJs
        3. In the words & actions of the listeners.
        4. In the setting it is usually associated with.
        5. In the types of advertisements they carry. (This shows what type of people are associated with this type of music. For instance, do they regularly advertise drinking clubs and wet T-shirt contests?)
      5. What fruit to look for:
        1. Sensuality (lust, sex)
        2. Pride
        3. Rebellion
        4. Greed
        5. Bitterness
        6. Deceit
        7. Vulgarity (esp. in humor)
        8. Any unrighteous style of living
  6. Other Scriptural Considerations:
    1. Pleasure in the evil of others (which can be exhibited in a love of sinful music) is sinful.
      1. Romans 1:28-32 (N.B. 32)
    2. Fascination with stories of evil (which can be exhibited in a love of sinful music) is sinful.
      1. Ephesians 5:8-12
      2. Romans 16:19
    3. We are to separate ourselves from all which is not Godly in it's source and fruit.
      1. 2 Corinthians 6:14-18
    4. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
      1. Romans 12:1,2
  7. Self-examination In Light Of These Biblical Principles.
    1. Do you enjoy music, TV shows, Movies, etc. that mock and scorn the Christian principles that you claim to hold dear?
    2. Do you justify unrighteous music with the excuse "I never listen to the words?" What does 1 John 4:1-3 say about that?
    3. Do the DJs on the radio stations you listen to take pleasure in vulgar jokes, & songs, or spending time discussing sex in a less than biblical perspective? (i.e. do they enjoy discussing lust, adultery, & fornication)
    4. What do you know about the lives of those who perform and listen to the music as a group of people? Are they generally rebellious? Lustful? Hateful? Covetously motivated? Do you wish to be associated with that type of person? Does Christ want you to be considered as that type of person by those who don't know you well?
    5. Do you ever lift up your voice in songs of praise and worship to God and Jesus? Privately? With other christians (outside of church?) Do you sing during the worship assembly?
    6. Do you condemn the "Heavy Metal" music of others while enjoying George Strait singing about the pleasures of adultery and drunkenness? (Romans 2:1-3)
    7. This is a question that no-one can decide for others (except parents for children.)
  8. What To Do If You Like Music Which Fails The Tests Of God's Purity?
    1. Repent of listening to it. (Acts 8)
    2. Get rid of all of your tapes, records, videos, etc. of that type of music.
    3. Ask God's forgiveness (1 John 1:9)
    4. Learn to hate evil (including music which doesn't agree with God's purposes and principles for your life.)

Proverbs 8:13 The fear of the Lord is to hate evil:

 

 

 

Family Communication

Introduction: Mt. 7:12 (Often problems arise in relationships due to a lack of communication. Family relationships are no exception to this. Although the teaching set forth here will regulate communication in any context, it is specifically designed to speak to our families. The text sets forth a principle that should be followed in every area of our lives. But as it is applied to communication, you can see the basic premise underlying this study. Communicate with others the way you want them to communicate with you. For the purpose of this study, communication will be divided into four basic areas; listening, answering, speaking and resolution.)

I. Listening: To learn to be a good communicator, you must learn to be a good listener.

     1. Be A Ready Listener: Jas. 1:19 (Contrast being swift to hear with being slow to speak. To be a good listener, you must give more attention to listening than to speaking.)

     2. Look For Areas Where You May Be Wrong: Prov. 12:15 (If you fail to see that you are sometimes wrong, you are a fool!)

     3. Try To Understand The Other Person's Point Of View: Prov. 18:2, 15 (If you don't seek to understand others, you are a fool. It is wise to search for knowledge and understanding in what others are saying.)

     4. Seek The Interests Of Others: Phil. 2:3 (This teaches us to be unselfish. Being unselfish will reflect in the way you listen to others.) 1 Cor. 10:33 (Paul left this example for us.)

II. Answering: The next step to good communication is knowing how to answer what is said to you.

     1. Listen First: Prov. 18:13 (You must let the other person finish speaking before you can answer.)

     2. Think First: Prov. 15:28 (Give yourself time to study your answer before responding.) Prov. 29:20 (A hasty response is of no value and exposes you as a fool.)

     3. Don't Quarrel: Prov. 17:14 (It is possible to passionately disagree without fighting.) Prov. 20:3 (Pride makes us want to keep on fighting but true honor comes to the person who stops the fight. It's harder for a person to fight when their opponent refuses to engage. Unlike war, you can refuse to fight without surrendering.)

     4. Don't Shout: Eph. 4:31 (Clamoring means to shout. When you shout you are sinning!)

     5. Don't Use Profanity: Eph. 5:2-4 (Foolish talking, etc., has reference to profane language. This has no place in your communication.)

     6. Don't Seek Revenge With Your Words: Rom. 12:17, 21 (There is no place in the Christian heart for vengeance! When you respond to hurtful words with a desire to get revenge, you are sinning!)

     7. Use A Soft Answer: Prov. 15:1, Prov. 25:15 (A soft answer is more disarming than cruel words. A soft answer involves tone of voice and content.)

III. Speaking: Then you must learn to express your ideas an acceptable way.

     1. Tell The Truth: Rev. 21:8 (Dishonesty can cost you your soul! There is no place in communication for deceitfulness or dishonesty.)

     2. Speak It With Love: Eph. 4:15 (The truth alone it not enough. It must be said with love.) 1 Cor. 13:4-8 (Love will dictate many aspects of the way we speak.)

     3. Don't Tear Down: Eph. 4:29 (It is a sin to speak words for the purpose of tearing others down. If you live by the insult, you will die by the insult. If it is wrong to try to tear the other person down, how much more wrong is it to do this in the presence of others?)

     4. Don't Nag: Prov. 27:15 (Nagging makes it difficult it the other person to listen to you.)

IV. Settlement: Effective communication leads to a settlement of problems and differences. To effectively communicate you must learn to resolve problems, not just discuss them.

     1. Confess: Jas. 5:16 (As Christians, we are to confers our sins to another trusted Christian. When you wrong someone, you need to confess that wrong and seek their forgiveness.)

     2. Repent: II Cor. 7:10-11 (True repentance involves the fruit of a concentrated effort to change.)

     3. Forgive: Lk. 17:3 (When the offending person repents, you must forgive.) Prov. 17:9 (Once a matter is resolved and the offender has been forgiven, don't bring it up again.)

     

Foundations Of Fatherhood

Introduction: (More than ever, our families desperately need godly fathers. Children are crying for appropriate attention from Dad. Plenty of men are willing to sire children but not willing to work hard to be good fathers. You need to learn these foundation principles that will help you be a better father.)

I. Build A Good Relationship With Your Wife: (The first foundation of being a good father is building a godly relationship with your wife.)

     1. Presenting A United Parental Front: Mt. 12:25 (In dealing with the Jews, Jesus stated a principle that is true in all areas of life. A divided house cannot stand. As a father you must build a good relationship with your wife so you can present a united parental front.)  2. Making Her Job Easier: Eph. 5:25 (It is easier for a woman to accept her role as a wife and mother when the man properly fulfills his role. You must accept your self sacrificing role as leader of the family to make it possible for her to accept her role.)

II. Provide Spiritual Leadership: (Being head of the house involves embracing the responsibility of being spiritual leader in your home. This in no way minimizes the importance your wife has in affecting the spirituality of your home. It does emphasize you have a responsibility to take the lead.)

     1. Study The Bible: Ps. 1:1-2, 1 Tim. 4:13, 15 (You must study the scriptures for your own knowledge. You cannot teach your children if you don’t know the Bible yourself.)  2. Teach Your Children: Deut. 6:7-9, Eph. 6:4 (Teach your children constantly! How can you think you are a good Dad if you never teach your children the word of God.)
        A. Use Opportunities: Exo. 12:26-27 (God told Israel to use the occasions when their children quizzed them to teach. You must use every opportunity to teach your children God’s word.)

          B. Think Of The Future: Deut. 4:9-10 (Teach your children with thoughts of the future generations. What you teach them will directly effect what the next generation learns.)

      3. Show Correct Priorities: Mt. 10:37-39 (You must set the example before your children of the right priorities. Does your life show that God is first? That the church is important? Family?)

    III. Provide Moral Leadership: (Again, you must take the lead and set the moral tone of your home.)

       1. Setting A Good Example: Titus 2:6-7 (God tells us to be careful to show a pattern of good works. This involves laying down a consistently righteous example before our children. This is to be an example of doing good deeds as well as abstaining from evil deeds.)  2. What You Demand Of Your Children: Prov. 29:15 (It is your responsibility to make reasonable demands of your children. If you leave them to their own devices they will not blossom into something godly.)
       
        A. Rules: 1 Sam. 2:12-17, 22-25, 1 Sam. 3:13 (Eli’s sons were very evil. He rebuked them but he did not do enough to restrain them. We have to give our children rules and we have to enforce those rules.) 2 Sam. 13/Deut. 22:25-27, 2 Sam. 13:21 (David should have disciplined Amnon. According to the law, Amnon should have been killed. David was angry, but did not act. Other texts add that David would not have Amnon killed because he was first born.) B. Discipline: Prov. 13:24, Prov. 22:15, Prov. 23:13-14 (The scriptures plainly teach us to discipline our children. Be a man and accept this responsibility. Don’t let others stop you from administering measured, loving discipline.) C. See Their Faults: 2 Sam. 18:5, 33, 2 Sam. 19:1-6 (Absolom rebelled against David and intended to kill him. David still favored Absolom and wanted him spared. He was so caught up in this he appeared to care more for his enemies than for his friends. This refusal to see the error of his son did not help Absolom. As fathers we must be objective with our children and see their faults.)

    IV. Provide Financial Leadership: (Like in these other areas, you must set the pace of leadership.)

       1. Hard Work1 Tim. 5:8, Prov. 24:30-34 (The Lord teaches us to work hard to provide for our families. We must be especially diligent in light of the fact we are showing our children the work ethic.)  2. Thrift: Prov. 18:9 (Wastefulness is akin to laziness. You need to set an example before your children of being thrifty and not wasteful.) Prov. 13:22 (It is a godly pursuit to leave some inheritance for your children. While a child needs wisdom to properly use an inheritance [Prov. 20:21, Eccl. 7:11] it can be good. Preparing for such is a good show of thrift.)  3. Generosity: Prov. 3:9 (Set an example of generosity before your children. Give generously to the church and those in need. This will be leadership worth following.)

    V. Provide Emotional Leadership: (We might easily pass by this aspect of leadership, but it is important. We have allowed ourselves to think emotional sensitivity is contrary to the macho image. But we must not let worldly thinking poison our work as fathers. We must lead emotionally as well.)

       1. Be Stable: Jas. 1:8 (Instability is often rooted in double mindedness. Double mindedness will always cause instability. You must firmly fix yourself on serving God to give you the best opportunity to exhibit emotional stability. From this vantage point you can emotionally lead your children.) 2 Kings 17:41 (God’s people imitated the instability of previous generations. If you don’t get your feet planted firmly on the ground you cannot properly lead your family to be emotionally stable.)  2. Support Your Wife:

        A. Be Affectionate: Gen. 26:8 (This story gives a glimpse of Isaac being affectionate with Rebecca. This is part of the natural course of marriage. Tenderness and affection are important ways to show your wife your love and support. The sense of security this gives your home will help your children feel more emotionally secure.)
        B. Be Kind: Col. 3:12-13 (Kindness in your disposition towards her will also help enhance the emotional security of your home.)

       3. Support Your Children:


        A. Communicate: Prov. 18:2 (Listen! This passage speaks of the fool who only wants to express themselves, but has no interest in understanding what the other person has to say.)
        B. Give Constant Attention: Rom. 1:31 (The Bible condemns those who do not have natural family love. It is only natural to want to give your children love and attention. And children certainly need constant attention. So to do anything short of this is unspeakable. Fathers, what affection your daughters don’t receive from you they may seek in a misguided way when they are dating.) C. Don’t Overbear: Col. 3:21 (Paul warns us not to provoke our children. We can be overbearing and cause them to be broken spirited.)

    Conclusion: (Fatherhood is more important than you realize. It leaves a mark as deep as the soul. Don’t underestimate what you mean to your children and what a great impact you can have on their lives. Use these foundations of fatherhood and build a good home.)

    Four Foundations of a Good Marriage

    1. Your Marriage Must Be Focused On God:

      A. God must be first: Mt. 6:33 (even before your spouse) Lk. 14:26-33 (without this level of commitment you cannot be a disciple)

      B. All must be done for God: Col. 3:17, 23 (this translates into the way you serve your spouse, fixing a meal for him, repairing the home for her, etc.)

      C. All must be guided by God: 2 Tim. 3:16-17 (the Bible tells us all we need to know about being a good spouse) Mt. 4:4 (married life must be guided by God's word, not human philosophy)

    2. Your Marriage Should Be Permanent:

      A. This is God's original design: Mt. 19:4-6

      B. There are some exceptions to this: Mt. 19:9, Mt. 5:32 (in the case of fornication the marriage bond may be dissolved and renewed with another partner) 1 Cor. 7:12-15 (if an unbelieving spouse is not content to dwell the believer is free from the bonds of that marriage)

      C. Divorce that is legal [by God's law] is not always right: Deut. 24:1-4 (the law of Moses allowed for "trivial" divorce) Mal. 2:13-16 (however these Jews were condemned for such divorces even though they were technically legal; God wants marriages to last)

    3. Your Marriage Must Be A Blessing:

      A. A blessing to you: Prov. 19:14, Prov. 18:22 (a good spouse is a great blessing) Prov. 12:4 (but a bid spouse can destroy your life; generally, marriage will make or break you) 1 Pet. 3:1 (ideally the good spouse can influence the family to salvation; who you marry can determine your salvation and that of your children)

      B. A blessing to the church: Rom. 16:3-4 (this family had helped the church-in many areas; when asked to name the most influential individual in the church, many named couples, not individuals) 

      C. A blessing to the world: Mt. 5:13-16, Titus 2:4-5 (your family will either reproach or revive the church; you will either be a light that influences others to good or a shame the causes others to hate the church)

    4. Your Marriage Must Be Entered Properly:

      A. With the right person: I Cor. 15:33 (your choice of a spouse will influence countless souls; yours, your children and others your marriage might influence to good or bad; your choice should be based on quality, not "falling in love")

      B. Separate from your parents: Eph. 5:31 (you must break your dependence and not expect parents to bail you out)

      C. For the glory of God: I Cor. 6:20 (not what marriage can do for you but what your marriage can do for God)

    God wants your Home

    Introduction: Mt. 4:4 (Jesus said that man must live by the word of God. God wants every aspect of our lives to be controlled by his word. This includes your home. Too many homes today are controlled by the Devil. It is high time we yield our homes to God. God wants to control your home. God wants your home!)

    1. Focused On God: Mt. 6:33 (God demands to be number one in your life. This priority should be reflected in every area of your life. It should especially show in your home. Every area of your family life must place God first and as such submit to his will.) Lk. 14:26-33 (God demands the kind of discipleship that yields all to him.)

    2. A Blessing: God wants your home to be a blessing.

       To You: Prov. 19:14, Prov. 12:4 (A good spouse can be the best thing that ever happened to you or it can be your biggest disaster.)

       To The Church: Rom. 16:3-4 (Priscilla and Aquilla as a family were a great influence on the church of their day.)

       To The World: Mt. 5:16 (God wants your home to be a positive influence to the world.)

    3. Husband As A Leader: Eph. 5:23 (God demands that the husband be the leader of the family.)

    4. Wife As A Guide: Eph. 5:33, 1 Tim. 5:14 (While the woman is to submit to the husband's leadership she does have authority to guide the home.)

    5. Love In Your Home: Eph. 5:25-28, Titus 2:4 (God demands that husband and wife love one another. Love is not an option.) 1 Jn. 3:18 (Love is action and attitude, not a feeling.) 1 Cor. 13:4-8 (Illustrate the specific ways that love effects every area of the marriage relationship.)

    How to be Content

    1. Introduction:  Philippians 4:11

      A. Many times our favorite topics at parties, Bible studies, dinners, or any other time you get together with friends and/or family are our problems. How often have you heard (or participated in) the following conversation?

        Person 1: How was work today?

        Person 2: Oh, the same old grind, I just don't know how much longer I'll be able to put up with it. It just seems to be getting worse.

        Person 1: Yeah, I know what you mean, would you believe that they are only giving us two days off for Christmas?And don't even ask me about our Christmas bonus.

        Person 2: Christmas bonus, what Christmas bonus, those tightwads wouldn't even think of giving us a bonus, Of course they are taking a full week off but what can us little guys expect. You only exist so that they can make the real profit.

        Person 1: Well, if I could just get a transfer to a new department, then I wouldn't have to work with all those incompetents but as it is now, I do all my work and theirs too!And then come time for evaluation and they get better raises than I do!

        Person 2: Well I just want another job altogether, I just hate working where I do, no-one is really friendly, the pay is lousy, and they always make me do things their way which I know slows me down, and I get no respect or thanks for it when I get a job done.

      B. Are you content with your life?What about your job?Your finances?Your health?Or. . .

        1. Do you gripe and complain about all the things that are not `right' in your life?

        2. Are you discouraged because it seem that things just aren't working out the way you wanted?

        3. Does it ruin your day if something you had planned and really looked forward to falls through?

        4. Do little irritations nag at you until they cause your attitude to sour and take the joy out of your life?

        5. Does extra, unplanned, and urgent work or hassle get your goat and make you into a bear?Do you walk around as a roaring lion seeking whom you may devour?

        6. If any of this sounds familiar, this sermon is for you. I wish to talk about contentment.

      C. Contentment = Being satisfied with life, the absence of dissatisfaction.

        1. It is the natural enemy of jealousy, envy, greed, covetousness, selfishness, and discouragement.

      D. Two Frogs fell into a pail of milk

        1. One got discouraged and croaked

        2. The other thought, I may go down, but I'm going down fighting, and he kicked, and he kicked, and the next morning, they found him sitting on a pad of butter.

      E. I suggest to you this morning two things:

        1. That Christians have the greatest reasons in the world to be content and satisfied with their lives.

        2. Discontentment, griping, whining, bellyaching, murmuring, etc. are sinful.

    2. How some in scripture handled trouble and/or problems

      A. How Paul Handled Trouble:

        1. 2 Cor. 11:23-33 If anyone had trouble, it was Paul, but did he gripe & complain?

        2. Phs. 4:11-13 No. He learned to be content in every situation.

          a. Acts 16:22-25 Paul even sang in prison

          b. Notice that contentment was something Paul learned. It was not natural, it is learned.

          c. You all choose to be Glass half full or glass half empty types of people.

      B. How the Israelites handled trouble

        1. 1 Cor. 10:1-10 They murmured and many of them died for it.

        2. This is our example that we should not murmur. God hates murmuring.

    3. Some Reasons You Might Get Discouraged And Not Be Content In Life:

      A. You forget that you belong to God and that He has promised to design all things for your good.

        1. 1 Peter 1:18,19 He purchased you with the Blood of Jesus

        2. Rom. 8:28 All for good

        3. When you do that, you end up looking at the trouble instead of at God

          a. Num. 14:6-9 Joshua & Caleb saw the Giants, but they also saw God

      B. You lose sight of the goal (some don’t even know the goal) ??? to be like Jesus

        1. Rom. 8:29 To be like Christ

          a. He ordained that you would be like his son. That is how all things work together for good.

          b. Not that only good things would happen to you, but that in the end, you would come out of life thinking, talking, and acting like Jesus.

      C. You forget that God has promised to test your faith.

        1. 1 Pt. 4:12,13 Rejoice in the fiery trial

      D. You may have a covetous heart

        1. 1 Tim. 6:8 Be satisfied with food & clothes

        2. Heb. 13:5 Be content with what you have

        3. Your heart should be filled with gratefulness

          a. 1 Thess. 5:18 Always give thanks

        4. Avoid the sin of self-pity

          a. Rom. 12:1 Living sacrifice

          b. You are to live as a servant of God and others, not of yourself

    1. Conclusion:

      A. God has always hated that people complain and whine when they don't have or get what they want or think they deserved.

      B. His desire is for us to be content in any situation that you face. Phs. 4:11

      C. This morning I call on you to chose to be the second frog.

      D. Don't allow discouragement to get hold of you, but instead, look to Jesus.

      E. Your problems may be big, but God is bigger and He could stop them if He wanted.

      F. If they don't stop, that is because God is using them to develop in you some part of the Character of Jesus.

      G. Learn to trust God, He is good, He loves you, He is all powerful, nothing ever gets out of His control, and He has promised that all things will/do work together for good in your life.

      H. Your part is to trust God, and live your life in service to Him so that you may have His promises.

        1. Know that you belong to God

        2. Remember that He loves you

        3. Accept that this is for your own good

        4. Embrace the irritation/problem & rejoice

        5. Try to learn what you need to learn

        6. Guard your heart against covetousness

        7. Learn gratefulness

        8. Never, Never, Never indulge in self-pity

        9. Trust in the promise of God, don't embarrass Him by proclaiming your distrust by discouragement, hostility, etc.

     

    Influence

    1) INTRODUCTION:

    A) Mt 5:13-16 -  In most cases, the greatest power we can have over another is influence - salt & light. But we need to know that our influence can be either good or bad!
    B) 1 Tim 4:12 - the great thing about our influence is that we get to choose what kind of influence we are going to have.  What makes your influence the most powerful is:
        1)  CONSISTENCY!  When people around you know what you are going to do every time!!!
        2) CLARITY - When people can see/hear what you are going to do.

    2) GOOD OR BAD INFLUENCE:

    A) Good Examples:
        1) Acts 9:36-39 - Dorcus's influence was so great that people were greatly moved by her death.
        2) 2 Cor 9:22 - the willingness to help of those in Corinth was an influencing factor in the zeal that was brought by others.
        3) 1 Cor 7:16 - In admonition to not leave an unbelieving spouse, Paul informs us that how we lead our life could be an influencing factor in the salvation of others.
        4) Joshua 24:31 - Joshua's life influence was such that it caused a whole nation to follow God.

    B) Bad Examples:
        1) 2 Kings 21:1-9 - Manasseh's influence was such that it did just the opposite of Joshua's.
        2) 1 Kings 11:1-4 - Solomon made a bad choice and allowed those around him to influence him to turn away from God.
        3) Mt 23:13 - The Pharisees caused many Jews to fall away.
        4) Eccl 9:18  -It doesn't take a lot to destroy.  Your influence can destroy those around you.

    C) How do I know what kind of Influence I have?
        1) What kind of fruit do you bear (Jn 15:8).
        2) What kind of friends do you have ( 1 Cor 15:33) - what type of people desire to be around you.
        3) How do others speak of you (1 Tim 5:24-25) - your reputation is created by the influence you have.

    3) HOW TO MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR INFLUENCE:
     

    A) CONSISTENT LIFE - Rm 12:1-2. When we sometimes live as a sacrifice and sometimes live in the world, we paint a confused picture.  Phil 1:27 - our life should be so consistent  that no matter who is or is not around, we are going to live the same way.
    B) CLARITY OF LIFE - Our life's message to the world doesn't not need to be confused with wavering back and forth.  Rather it should stand with the clear message of the Bible.  Eph 4:14-15. For this to happen we must grow.  Grow so that others see the life of Christ in us (1 Cor 11:1)

    4) CONCLUSION:

    A) God has a purpose for your life - Eph 2:10; 1 Pet 2:12 - you influence can either hinder or help!
    B) Heb 11:4 - your influence will last longer than your life (children, family, friends, etc.)  How will you use this influence?

    Respect and Disrespect

    Introduction: (The scriptures teach us to treat others with respect. Mankind has always failed at this to one degree or another. In this study we will define respect and examine specific areas where we often fail to respect. We will also look at root problems that contribute to a lack of respect and at the fruit of respectful treatment of others.)

      1. The Wrong Kind Of Respect: (There are certain kinds of respect that are not right. Follows are a couple of examples. These examples show the appropriate kind of respect is treating others with kindness and dignity.)

         1. Honor For The Undeserving: Prov. 26:1, 8 (While everybody should be treated with respect or kindness, there are some who do not deserve honor or admiration. Though we should treat such a person with respect, we should not exalt them or their foolish ways.)

         2. Lip Service: Mt. 15:8 (Respect that is mere shallow lip service is wrong. It is good to say positive, flattering things to others, but never as an insincere lip service.)

      2. Respect To God: (First and foremost, we must have respect for God. This is of primary importance because our respect for him leads us to respect others.)

         1. Honor Is Due Him: Ps. 29:2 (We respect God and give him honor simply because he deserves it.)

         2. Honor With Substance: Prov. 3:9 (We honor God, not just with words, but with our substance. This shows respect involves how we treat God.)

         3. Honor Jesus: Jn. 5:23 (We honor God by following Jesus. If you are not a disciple of Jesus you are not honoring him, and therefore are not honoring God.)

      3. Respect To Fellow Christians: 1 Tim. 5:1-2 (This passage speaks of how we should treat fellow Christians with dignity and respect. It addresses specific relationships and how we should behave in them.)

         1. Intreat: (To intreat means to plead, almost beg. This is how we should treat men older than us, especially elders.)

         2. Mothers: (We should treat the older women in the church with a motherly respect.)

         3. Brothers And Sisters: (We should treat the younger in the church with a sense of purity, like we would toward siblings in the flesh.)

         

      4. Respect To Spouse: (We must respect each other in the home. Perhaps our children sometimes fail to learn respect because they don’t see it demonstrated at home.)

         1. Wives1 Pet. 3:7 (The scriptures teach husbands to give honor and respect to our wives. Do we treat her like a person or a slave? Do we do the little things to show her we care? Do we show our respect for her by providing the manly leadership she deserves?)

         2. Husbands: Eph. 5:33 (The scriptures teach wives to revere their husbands. Do you insult him or ridicule him? Do you rebel against his leadership? Would you call him sir or lord? Why not?)

      5. Respect To Parents: Prov. 30:17, Eph. 6:1-2 (The scriptures are plain that children must treat parents with respect. Do you respect your parents? Do you obey them? Do you sass them or cuss them?)

      6. Respect To The Aged: (This kind of respect seems especially absent today. Many generations have complained the young did not respect their aged. This seems to be a common problem of the youth throughout man’s history.)

         1. Taught To Respect: Lev. 19:32 (Moses’ law reflected this timeless principle by commanding Israel to respect the aged.)

         2. Aged Parents: Prov. 23:22 (Wisdom demands we especially honor our aged parents. Our children may be watching to see how they should treat us when we are old.)

         3. Courtesy: Job 32:4 (Respect for the aged is expressed in such simple courtesies as waiting for them to speak before speaking.)

      7.  The Root: (There are root problems behind the issue of disrespect. Follows are two that seem to be common. The root of appropriate respect for others is love.)

         1. Hate: Gen. 37:4 (These men did not treat their brother with respect or kindness because of their hateful attitude toward him.) Mt. 12:34-36 (The hateful things we say to others in disrespect come from a hateful heart. We will be judged by these idle words or conversations.)

         2. Pride: Isa. 3:5 (Here disrespectful behavior toward the aged is characterized as behaving proudly. This shows pride is often at the root of disrespect.)

         3. Love1 Cor. 13:4-8a (If we have love for others it will show in the way we treat them.)

      8.  The Fruit: Prov. 15:13 (This passage shows the root of cheerfulness and respect toward others is a merry heart. The fruit of treating people with respect is happiness and the fruit of being hateful is a broken spirit. Show me a person who consistently treats others with disrespect and I’ll show you a miserable person.)

    Conclusion: 1 Sam. 2:30 (We must treat others with respect. It starts with honoring God and grows from there. The reward of disrespect is misery but the reward of proper respect is receiving honor and respect from God.)

    Responsibilities of Parents

    1. Parents Must Not Frustrate Their Children:

      A. Provoking to anger: Eph. 6:4 (this does not forbid any angering of the child because most any discipline or rule might make a child angry)

      B. Discouraging: Col. 3:21 (herein is the key, don't let the guidance be such that discourages the well meaning child; examples; being too dominant, rules with no purpose, parents who won't listen to genuine questions, etc.)

    2. Parents Must Train Their Children:

      A. Bringing them up in admonition: Eph. 6:4 (this involves teaching God's word to children)

      B. A planned effort: Prov. 22:6 (training implies a preplanned, determined effort; as a general rule this will not fail)

      C. Teach your children: Deut. 6:6-9 (your child's life should be filled with a study of God's word starting with short Bible stories as soon as they can understand what you are saying; gradually increase the length and intensity of your study as they grow and mature)

    3. Parents Must Discipline Their Children:

      A. Motivated by love: Prov. 13:24 (love motivated discipline is not abusive; it must be done early in life and swiftly)

      B. The child's soul is in danger: Prov. 23:13-14 (their should be a sense of urgency about your task) Prov. 19:18 (urgency, don't let the tears hinder you from your task)

      C. Don't let nature take its course: Prov. 29:15 (out with the idea of letting the "good person" in your child come out; man is sinful by nature, not good)

      D. Discipline works: Prov. 22:15, Heb. 12:5-11 (it yields peaceable fruits of righteousness)

    4. Parents Must Give Their Children Something worth Keeping:

      Prov. 1:8-9 (the best inheritance you can leave your children is unwavering faith in God and respect for his will) Eph. 6:l-3 (this respect is established by teaching them respectful obedience toward you)

    Responsibilities of the Husband

    1. The Husband Must Be The Leader Of The Family: Eph. 5:23

      A. Not a privilege but a responsibility: 1 Cor. 11:3 (God and Christ's Lordship involves responsibility as does the husbands)

      B. Not easy: (must make difficult decisions; financial, religious, etc. the wife should appreciate this)

      C. Lead the way Jesus leads: 1 Jn. 5:3 (Jesus is an easy Lord to follow because he gave so much and is not unreasonable, a fit example for husbands)

    2. The Husband Must Love His Wife: Eph. 5:25-31

      A. Action, not mere romance: 1 Jn. 3:18 (the emphasis of his love is in the way he treats his wife, not his emotions toward her)

      B. Love well described: 1 Cor. 13:4-8 (illustrate each characteristic of love in the context of a husband loving his wife)

      the loving husband is patient with his wife

      the loving husband does not envy his wife

      the loving husband does not brag or act proud

      the loving husband does not behave shamefully

      the loving husband is not selfish

      the loving husband is not quick tempered

      the loving husband does not contemplate evil

      the loving husband does not rejoice in sin

      the loving husband bears his due burden

      the loving husband is trusting

      the loving husband has hope for the relationship

      the loving husband is all-enduring

      the loving husband never lets his love die

    3. The Husband Must Provide:

      A. Failure: 1 Tim. 5:8 (one who does not provide is worse than an unbeliever)

      B. What to do: 2 Thes. 3:6-15 (one who fails in this duty is to be admonished and avoided) 

      C. The wife may assist the husband: Prov. 31:16, 18, 24 (the virtuous woman is seen as helping provide a living for her family; this is not required of her but it is permitted; the husband may assist the wife in her domestic duties unless it hinders him as a provider)

    4. The Husband Must Be Unselfish:

      A. Sex within the marriage is holy: Heb. 13:4 (God sanctions this holy union and has purposed it for the married persons pleasure)

      B. The husband must gratify his wife: 1 Cor. 7:1-4 (rendering due benevolence relates to the concept of providing physical pleasure)

      C. Sex must not be a weapon: 1 Cor. 7:5 (denying the spouse their due cannot yield good fruit; Satan will tempt in times of prolonged abstinence)

    Responsibilities of the Wife

    1. The Wife Must Guide The Home:

      A. Authority to guide: 1 Tim. 5:14 (the wife must have the freedom to make decisions in the realm of homemaking; she must be unencumbered by the husband)

      B. Older women should teach homemaking: Titus 2:4-5 (the woman's duty to the family is characterized by domestication)

      C. Helping the husband: (Note from Lesson #2, 3., C.: The wife may assist the husband: Prov. 31:16, 18, 24 [the virtuous woman is seen as helping provide a living for her family; this is not required of her but it is permitted] such help is not wrong unless it prevents her from performing her duties as a homemaker)

    2. The Wife Must Submit To Her Husband: Eph. 5:22

      A. Treating him with respect: Eph. 5:33 (the wife must treat the husband with reverence and respect, just as the christian respects Christ)

      B. Submission to promote godliness: 1 Pet. 3:1-6 (the woman's submission can persuade the husband to serve God)

      C. Submission is not ugly: 1 Pet. 5:5 (submission in one way or another is a big part of the christian life; Christ submitted to death, is this ugly?)

    3. The Wife Must Be Encouraging:

      A. Her original purpose: Gen. 2:18, 1 Cor. 11:9 (woman was originally created for the purpose of providing companionship for the man and fulfilling his needs)

      B. Not nagging: Prov. 27:15, Prov. 21:19 (if you discourage and fail to support your husband, he is better off without you)

      C. It can destroy him: Jdgs. 16:16 (Samson was so discouraged by Delilah he wanted to die; the woman holds a great power either for her husbands benefit or destruction) 

    4. The Wife Must Be Unselfish:

      A. The wife must gratify her husband: 1 Cor. 7:1-4 (rendering due benevolence relates to the concept of providing physical pleasure)

      B. Sex must not be a weapon: 1 Cor. 7:5 (denying the spouse their due cannot yield good fruit; Satan will tempt in times of prolonged abstinence)

      C. Compared to a water well: Prov. 5:15-23 (God's will is that the husbands sexual desire be satisfied by his wife rather than fornication; a man cannot drink water from his well if the well has run dry; be sensitive to your partner's needs)

    Settling Personal Differences

    Introduction: Mt. 5:23-24, Mt. 18:15-17 (Jesus taught that before you make your offering of service to God you need to settle differences with others. The Bible gives specific procedures for doing this. This lesson intends to explore the wrong way and the right way to settle personal differences.)

    What People Usually Do:

      1. Let It Boil, Bitterness Builds: Prov. 10:18 (Often when one has been offended and been asked regarding the offense they lie by saying nothing is wrong.) Jas. 3:14 (After brooding over the problem bitterness and hate builds. This is nothing to be proud of.)

      2. Tell Others: Ps. 101:5 (Such slander is a shame before God and those who do such will be cut off.) Prov. 11:9 (To slander a brother by gossiping behind their back rather than dealing with the problem is hypocrisy.) Prov. 15:22 (However it may be legitimate to discuss the situation with a third party to seek counsel on how to handle it.)

      3. "Air" It Publicly: Eph. 4:31-32 (Pitching fits is contrary to Christian behavior of kindness and tender heartedness.) 1 Cor. 6:1-8 (Law suits between Christians is another way some "air" it publicly and attempt to deal with problems. This too is unacceptable.) Jn. 13:34-35 (All should bear in mind that the love with which Christians face personal differences is a reflection of genuineness.)

    What People Should Do:

      1. Drop It: Mt. 5:25-26 (Jesus advised quick settlement of differences.) Prov. 17:9 (Sometimes a matter is trivial and a loving attitude allows one to drop it and never bring it up again nor dwell on it.)

      2. Resolve It: Lk. 17:3-4 (If the problem is serious it merits repentance and then forgiveness.) Mt. 18:15-17 (If the problem is serious it merits the steps outlined here.)

    Four Possible Outcomes:

      1. Active Resolution: The problem is confronted followed by repentance and possible restitution and all is forgiven.

      2. Passive Resolution: The offended party decides the matter is trivial and merits no further action. Based on Prov. 17:9 the matter is dropped and forgotten.

      3. Ambiguous Resolution: It is decided that there is no clear guilt or that guilt is shared. No further action is taken and based on Prov. 17:9 the matter is dropped and forgotten.

      4. Refusal: The offending party is obstinate and refuses to repent or seek forgiveness. The issue is taken to the next step outlined in Mt. 18:15-17.

     



     

    Problem

    Solution

    Offense

    Passive Resolution

     
    Private Confrontation

    Active Resolution
    Passive Resolution
    Ambiguous Resolution

     
    Semi-private Confrontation

    Active Resolution
    Passive Resolution
    Ambiguous Resolution

     
    Public Confrontation

    Active Resolution
    Passive Resolution
    Ambiguous Resolution

    Refusal

    Church Discipline

     

    The Closest Thing to Heaven or Hell

    1. Introduction:

    A. In America there is a 60% Divorce rate

    B. In Dallas, Texas there is a 103% Divorce rate

    1. 103 divorces for every 100 marriages.

    C. God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16)

    D. There are many terrible marriages/homes.

    E. A good marriage is the closest thing there is to Heaven on earth, and a bad marriage is the closest thing there is to Hell on earth

    2. Basics About A Godly Home.

    A. God must be first in your life (Luke 14:26)

    1. A "Christian home" requires christians.

    B. The marriage must be the priority relationship of the parents. (Genesis 2:24)

    1. God put a man and wife in the garden, not a parent and child.

    2. Leave father and mother.

    a. Don't build your life around the kids.

    b. Let go when they marry. Don't interfere!

    c. Go to mate, not parents for encouragement, direction, and support (financial, etc.)

    d. Parents become counselor’s/advisors

    3. The Woman In The Godly Home:

    A. Her basic design was to be a helper to her husband (Genesis 2:18)

    B. God protected her with a structure of authority (1 Corinthians 11:3)

    C. Submission is a great responsibility (Ephesians 5:22-24)

    1. Genesis 3:16; 4:7 "Thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee..."

    2. Submission depends on authority, not character.

    3. Submission is only needed when there is a difference of opinion or judgment.

    a. When God says so, it doesn't matter what the authority says.

    b. When we agree authority doesn't matter.

    4. Biblical submission is voluntary.

    a. Military term indicating to enlist in the army (as opposed to being drafted).

    b. You voluntarily place yourself under the authority of military officers over you.

    5. His abuse of authority doesn't excuse your refusal to submit.

    6. If he isn't a Christian (1 Peter 3:1-4)

    D. Her purpose is also to bear children & "guide" the house (1 Timothy 5:14)

    1. She must be a teacher of good things to her daughters (Titus 2:3-5) and sons (2 Timothy 1:5)

    4. The Man In The Godly Home:

    A. Authority means responsibility and accountability.

    1. Dwell with her according to knowledge (1 Peter 3:7)

    a. Knowledge of her willful submission.

    b. She has voluntarily become the "weaker vessel" in authority.

    c. This directly affects your relationship with God "that your prayers be not hindered".

    2. Man's "headship" is by virtue of God's authority, not mental, physical or emotional superiority.

    a. This makes him accountable to God for the home he is head over.

    b. Her refusal to submit never justifies his abuse of authority.

    c. God holds her accountable to submit, & you accountable for the godly headship.

    3. Love is your responsibility (Ephesians 5:25-32)

    a. Do you love enough to die for? Do you love enough to live (i.e. take out trash) for?

    b. Christ lived for the church (Romans 5:10)

    4. The head must be the provider. (Ephesians 5:28,29)

    a. To nourish & Cherish means to tenderly care for, to provide for the needs of.

    b. We do that for our own bodies, nursing them back to health when injured, feeding them when hungry, etc.

    c. You must be as concerned about meeting your wife's needs as you are your own.

    d. Worse than an infidel (1 Timothy 5:8)

    1. Unbelievers are called fools (Psalms 14:1) who will go to hell (Revelation 21:8)

    5. The Child In The Godly Home: (Ephesians 6:1-3)

    A. Rebellion a sin, not a stage.

    B. "In the Lord"

    C. Honor your parents.

    D. Choose a mate carefully - 1 Corinthians 7:39

    The Godly Wife in the Christian Home

    1. Introduction:


    And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone;
    I will make him a helper comparable to him. (Gen.2:18)
    He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour from the LORD. (Pr.18:22)
    Who can find a virtuous wife? for her price is far above rubies. (Pr.31:10)


    2. The Wife In The Godly Home:


    A. God must be first in your life (Luke 14:26)

    1. He must be more important than your children or your husband.

    B. Your Husband must be second in your life. (Genesis 2:24)

    1. God put a man and wife in the garden, not a parent and child.
    2. Leave father and mother. Responsibilities for parents and kids
    3. Don't build your life around the kids.
    4. Go to husband, not parents for encouragement, direction, and support (financial & otherwise.)

    C. Your basic purpose is to be a helper to your husband (Genesis 2:18)

    1. This was the reason for your creation. Do not miss this or you will never be fulfilled as a woman.

    D. God protected you with a structure of authority (1 Cor.11:3)

    1. Submission is a great responsibility (Eph.5:22-24)
    2. Genesis 3:16; 4:7 "Thy desire shall be to thy husband and he shall rule over thee..."
    3. Submission is only needed when there is a difference of opinion or judgment.
    4. When God says so, it doesn't matter what the authority says.
    5. When we agree it won't matter who is the authority.
    6. In its essential element, Biblical submission is voluntary.
    7. Military term indicating to enlist in the army (as opposed to being drafted).
    8. You voluntarily place yourself under the authority of the military officers over you.
    9. Don't marry someone you won't submit to!
    10. If you don't voluntarily submit, you are disobeying God.
    11. His abuse of authority doesn't excuse your refusal to submit.
    12. Policeman who give a ticket and then disobeys law himself.
    13. Primarily, it is his job to determine the direction of the home, and yours to determine how we move in that direction.

    3. The Godly wife's job description.

    A. "Whoso finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour from the LORD." (Pr.18:22)
    B. The Christian woman (Titus 2:4,5)

    1. Love Husband (lit. A husband-lover) Philandros (Philandros) signifies the emotional, friendship type of love, affection.
    2. Discreet = Self-controlled.
    3. Chaste =innocent, morally pure
    4. Homemakers (Keepers at home - KJV) = Workers at home
    5. The home is the primary area of responsibility of the wife. She is to oversee (Pr.31:27) the functioning of the home.
    6. She does this under the oversight of her husband.
    7. Good = Kind
    8. Obedient to their own husbands = (Eph.5:22f)
    9. To keep God's word from being blasphemed (Spoken evil of)

    C. Like Sarah (1 Peter 3:1-6)

    1. Adorning the inner woman
    2. Not condemning outward adorning, (per virtuous woman) but focusing on priority of adornment.
    3. Proverbs 11:22 As a ring of gold in a swine's snout, So is a lovely woman who lacks discretion.
    4. Don't argue with your husband about the modesty of your daughters clothes.
    5. Gentle and quiet = calm and peaceful, not flashing to anger or answering back
    6. Don't be a nag
    1) Proverbs 27:15,16 A continual dripping on a very rainy day And a contentious woman are alike; Whoever restrains her restrains the wind, And grasps oil with his right hand.
    7. Proverbs 19:13 ...the contentions of a wife are a continual dripping (Irritation).
    8. Proverbs 21:9 Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
    9. An unhappy wife is a public rebuke to her husband

    4. A Godly Mother

    I will that the younger women marry, bear children, and guide the house (1 Timothy 5:14)


    A. Timothy's mother...there was no-one in the early church like Timothy.
    B. Hannah & Samuel...she was the difference in him & Eli's sons.
    C. Choose a godly man to be the head of your home

    1. 2 Corinthians 6:14 "Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers"
    2. If you want your kids to be secure, LOVE THEIR FATHER!

    D. Don't take the kids side in matters of discipline

    1. Proverbs 19:18 Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
    2. Don't undermine the discipline in your home
    3. Proverbs 13:24 He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly.
    4. Proverbs 6:20 My son, keep your father's command, And do not forsake the law of your mother.
    5. Don't help them sneak around behind dad's back (Rebekah & Jacob)

    E. Don't show favoritism to the kids (Joseph & Brothers, Jacob & Esau)

    The Lions Had The Mastery Of Them

    Dan. 6:4-24 In this story the people who made the law against prayer had to die. But their children also had to die. This shows that children often suffer because of the behavior of their parents. Today the lion is Satan (I Pet. 5:8). And your children may suffer and fall prey to him because of your irresponsibility as a parent.

    Your Job:

       A. Discipline:

          1. Prov. 13:24 (Love motivates godly discipline and proper discipline is done early in life and swiftly.)

          2. Prov. 23:13-14 (Contrary to worldly wisdom, proper discipline will not hurt the child but rather save them.
              It is up to you to save your child from hell. Your child might grow up and go to hell because of you!)

          3. Prov. 29:15 (A home without discipline will produce children who cause shame and finally become sinful adults.)

          4. Prov. 19:18 (Don't let the child's begging and crying stop you from doing the job God gave you.
             "Tenderheartedness" is a feeble excuse to disobey God.)

          5. Heb. 12:5-11 (This principle is applied to families today. It yields peaceable fruits.)

       B. Teaching:

          1. Prov. 22:6 (Training involves consistent, planned effort.

          2. Eph. 6:4 (You must admonish your children in the ways of the Lord.)

          3. Deut. 6:7-9 (You must study the Bible with your children. When is the last time you studied the Word of God with
              your children?)

          4. Ps. 78:1-7 (It is critical that you teach your children that future generations will know and obey the Lord.)

       C. Example: Ezek. 16:44 (Never underestimate the power of your example as a parent. Illustrate, drinking at home,
           church attendance, priority, entertainment, language, treatment of your spouse, etc..)

       D. Conclusion: Will the lion have his way with your children?

     

     

    The Powerful Legacy of a Godly Family

    Mt.5:13-16

        1. Introduction:
            A.  Gen. 12:1-3  Terah - Abram - Isaac - Jacob/Israel - Chosen people of God.
                1. This is a tremendous example of the influence one family can have on the world.
                2. Through this family that God brought salvation in His Son to us
                3. Today, important political events are shaped, by the existence of this nation (people/ family).
            B. Many (If not most) nations have a “significant family” that plays a key role in that nation.
                1.  In America, we currently have the Bush family.  Vice President 8 years, President 4 years,
                    a. Governors of Florida and Texas, and possible another presidential term.
                2. In the last generation it was the Kennedy family.
            C. Many of our congregations are what we often call “family churches”
                1. They are largely built around one or two “core” families and their friends and relatives.
            D. Even among the Lord’s Apostle’s.  When Jesus chose only 12, two sets of brothers were included.
                1. Andrew & Peter
                2. James & John

        2. Three areas of Influence of a Godly family:
            A. Generational – your children, grand children, great…, etc. – (2 Tim.1:5)
                1. Your children will learn from you.  2 Kings 17:41; Ex.34:7
                2. A magazine gave some interesting stats of two families that once lived in the state of New York.
           
                 One man, Max Jukes, did not believe in religion and married a girl of the same opinion.  From this union came 1,026 descendants.  Studies showed that 300 died prematurely; 100 were sent to the penitentiary; 190 sold themselves to vice; 100 were drunkards,; and the family cost the state of New York $1,100,00.00!

                Another man, Jonathan Edwards, believed in God and in his Christian training and married a girl of like character.  From that union 729 descendants were studied and they discovered that 300 were preachers, 65 were college professors, 13 were university presidents; 6 authors; 3 U.S. Congressmen and 1 was vice president of the United States.

           
        B. Personal – your other family & friends  (Acts 10:24)
                1. Ungodly friends can destroy a family  1 Cor.15:33
            C. Inspirational – Other’s outside your circle of immediate contacts  (Josh.24:31)

        3. What is a Godly family?
            A. It should begin with a godly man  Eph.6:4
                1. This may not be a possibility in your home (death, divorce, or ungodliness)
            B. It includes a godly woman  1 Tim.5:14
                1. This may not be a possibility in your home (death, divorce, or ungodliness)
            C. It is guided by a godly purpose  Mt.6:33; Lk.14:26
            D. They must be people of godly character  Pr.31:10
            E. It is not just “leadership” in the local church that makes a godly home.  1 Sam.8:1-3
                1. David, Eli, Samuel, and others were godly men who were failure’s as fathers.

        4. The Shameful Legacy of an Ungodly Family
            A. The sorrow of lost and ungodly children  Pr.17:25
            B. The emptiness of wasted lives  Lk.12:15; Mt.16:26

        5. A Mighty, and Influential, Godly family can Begin with You.
            A. Joshua 24:2  Terah was an Idolater.  He was NOT godly.
            B. The most influential family in the world began when the son of an Idolater chose to stand for right and faithfully follow God

       6. Conclusion:
            A. Godly families doesn’t have to be big (ie. Noah’s family), successful, educated or impressive,
                they just have to be faithful.
            B.  Will you stand and say "as for me and my house we will serve the Lord?"